tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1233889027045530752.post4857505275251814890..comments2023-03-25T05:59:06.550-07:00Comments on inspire - Opening your presence: And the walls came downVanessa Higginshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06147840385968556263noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1233889027045530752.post-13566040881113596422014-07-28T13:51:01.898-07:002014-07-28T13:51:01.898-07:00Thank you for sharing this Vanessa. It certainly ...Thank you for sharing this Vanessa. It certainly is an issue that many of us struggle with. I love your blog!!Carrie Van Hornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11715648073882529202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1233889027045530752.post-92159613541113265552014-06-19T13:37:34.506-07:002014-06-19T13:37:34.506-07:00It depends on the "friend." If the pers...It depends on the "friend." If the person is an emotional vampire, no, I don't lend an ear. This is where character discernment is helpful. Most of us didn't grow up with boundaries. <br /><br />Boundaries are never hurtful. Nor are they strict; they are neutral, like a wall, which is a boundary. There are many signs that let us know if someone is safe or unsafe. I believe boundaries are not relative. They exist, whether we acknowledge them or not. <br /><br />Without them, we live a life of chaos. The tragic things is that schools, churches and our family train us to not have boundaries. Instead, we are taught to ignore ourselves, that is is being a dutiful or nice person. I disagree. <br /><br />With all those I work with, they all need help with asserting their boundaries while being kind and courteous towards others at the same time. <br /><br />Hope to see you over at my place soon. Pablohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17963540433054608632noreply@blogger.com